Precisely. You've fulfilled your obligation as a host by offering her the option.

[Herbs she'd already brought over from the stores in her kitchen, as well as a container of salt for the bird. He would likely frown on butter so she looks instead for a bottle of oil for the roasting pan and potatoes.]

I come from a family of well known and largely useless individuals. They've enough status to be haughty about it but not so much to be responsible for anything. Of all my siblings I'm the one with the least social grace, as you well know. To keep me from insulting anyone they put me in charge of arranging most of our family gatherings, dinners, galas, whatever they required.